“A tongue has no bones, but it is strong enough to break a heart so be careful with your words.”
I know we live in a time, where we can “speak our minds” whether in person or over the internet, however still I think we should really take care of words, because they have the power to heal or destroy, especially to people who live with mental illness. It’s already hard enough to be going through it every day and then for someone just discount or belittle the hell you go through everyday is just….demeaning and insensitive!
So for those who want to talk to someone they know or just met or heck…each other, how do you talk to someone with an mental illness? Well, the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) created an infographic tilted “What Helps vs What Hurts: Talking to Someone With A Mental Disorder” that provides examples of the do’s and don’ts when talking to someone with a mental health disorder. If we are to reduce stigma towards mental illnesses then let’s begin by being weary of the words we say when speaking with one another.
If you’re like me living with mental illness then you know what it’s like to go to hell and back and then to go through hell and back again. You know what it’s like to be misunderstood, alone—and even when you’re surrounded people, you still feel alone. You know what it’s like to struggle to get out of bed, regardless of the fact you have get up on time to beat traffic to make it on work on time.You know what it’s like to keep on living even when a part of you just wants to fade away from existence. You know what it’s like to cry for help and yet have no one to answer your cries for help.
However, if you’re like me living with mental illness then you know what it’s like keep moving forward regardless of demons in your head standing in your way. You know what it’s like to recognize how strong you were even before you were diagnosed and treated for your mental illness. You know what it’s like to finally return to daily activities after being absent from them for certain amount of time. You know what it’s like to keep a strong face regardless for the storms you are facing.
You have to give yourself a big round of applause for always coming through for yourself, even on the days you wanted to give up.
I have been a tense person ever since I was a child; experiencing symptoms like repeated unwanted thoughts, irritability, numbing of emotions, inability to sit still, loose my temper, muscle tension….but I never knew it was related to an anxiety disorder. I was always told by people, even though my young adult years, I was either crazy, a drama queen, or slow. Although I knew where they were coming from, I knew I wasn’t any of those things get the best of me. The thing I was struggling with was, was it truly me or something else? Was I just trippin’ or was the thoughts and behaviors were a cry for something that needed to be taken care of?
Anxiety or rather anxiety disorders commonly taught as something “everyone has” is something that is common misunderstood. How do you know when you are displaying temporary anxiety symptoms versus the symptoms of an anxiety disorder? The Mental Health America organization has an infographic explaining what occurs doing an anxiety disorder, what anxiety disorders are not and stories on what truly feels like to live with an anxiety disorder. Continue reading the inforgraphic for more information! 😀
My mother is my muse (directly/indirectly) reminding me to stay true to myself, be courageous, become a woman of valor, to be focused, to be independent, to be loving, kind, and forgiving (still working on that part😅), determined, to be self-perserverant, carry myself with dignity, selfless… She been a wonder parent by being both a mom and dad to me and my siblings… Although sometime we don’t always see eye to eye, I know in the root of all she loves me and wants my happiness! It’s through her, I learn what real love looks like! My mom is just too wonderful!😭😭😭 Anyways😢 Happy Mother’s Day to all those wonderful mothers out there! 😄💐💐💐
Depression is a hard disorder to recognize. Hell, even every now and then I don’t recognize I’m depressed until I’m like, “Aw, man! I’m depressed.” So when someone tells me I don’t look I have depression, especially they’ve never lived with a chronic one, I find it hilarious! Even scientists don’t know what it looks like! We’re all not going to have that Eeyore face face that people think we will have. There are many faces depression and come from many different walks of life. I think it’s fair that it should not put in a box and bring mental health awareness the proper respect it deserves in order to eradicate depression, stigma and bring about better treatments to end depression and other components of mental illness forever.
Below is a little comic that talks about some of the misconceptions of “contracting” depression. Enjoy!