Day: October 25, 2018

M.I.A 2: Stress Colds🤧

Sorry for being M.I.A., I’ve been trying to battle a cold…flu…whatever it was. All I know I’ve been getting some chills, headaches (though I don’t know if it’s because of not sleeping well), a bit of fatigue, allergies, hoarse voice…it’s just hasn’t been good. But on the bright side, I’m back in So Cal and I’m working again. It’s back at the same school district I was substitute teaching before. I’m currently I’m at an AirBnb, until I can find a room to rent.

See for me, when I get a cold, I get a cold. It’s like bad. All the stress/anxiety I’ve gone through my life has impacted my health one way or the other. Being more susuptible to bad colds is one of them. I feel like I don’t even get “regular colds” anymore. It’s like either I don’t get sick or I get sick where it’s so bad, that I can end up getting bronchitis. That was what happened to me last year. I was sick for a month and a half. Fortunately, my cold this time only lasted for a week. Why is that? Again stress/anxiety. That alone will weaken my immune system and make it prone to colds, flu… It’s terrible. So I feel like I have to be walking on egg shells when it comes to my anxiety/stress levels, because if I’m not careful I can get really sick. Last year had so much was going on, so I ended up getting bronchitis. In addition to eating well and taking my meds, not stressing out is like THE key. But I’m glad to be finally out of that funk, because that was not cool at all.

Gratitude from A to Z — Mental Health @ Home

Okay so there’s this challenge going around for the month of October (finally a challenge that is POSITIVE) called “Gratitude from A to Z” that is great. This started from Liz at My Wellbeing and Learning  Journey blogsite and here you have to “identify something to feel grateful for starting with each letter of the alphabet.” I liked the post so so much that I tried the challenge out for myself and I had to say I rather enjoyed it! It was good way on focusing on the positives and remember the self-care mechanism I use to help me whenever depression and/or anxiety overcome me. As well as reminding me of my good traits. So here are mine:

A-romatherapy. The Eucalyptus mint from Bath and Body Works is awesome!

B-edtime. Reminds me to rest

C-ar. Got it paid off inspite of previous hardships

D-etermination. Without it, I don’t think I’d be able to do what I needed or wanted to accomplish

E-ducation. Helps me to be aware and be conscieous of the world and people around me.


G-ames. It’s fun to challnege myself.

H-ome. A place where I come to eat, shower, and sleep.

I-ncome. Having it helps me to eat, take care of myself, have fun…and have gas to go to work so I can make more of it.


K-indness. Helps me to not to be selfish and do the same towards myself.

L-Love. A wonderful feeling to recieve and give.

M-aturity. I’ve grown so much in my journey in mental health recovery

N-ature. I love walking and marveling in it.


P-atience. You can never have too much of it towards yourself and others.

Q-uestioning. A good way showing concern of the matters affecting my life and how I can make it better

R-eading.  A way to “travel” off to distant lands whether in this world or in a different universe or in another time. Also a great way of “meeting” different people from all walks of life.

S-nacks. Because sometimes I forget to eat.

T-elveision. I’m not going to lie, but I love watching my favorite TV shows.


V-alor. I’ve shown that in my recovery journey

W-orth. It has grown.

NeX-t. Looking forward to the next part of my healing process.

Y-esturday. I’ve learned how strong I’ve become since then.

Z-ero. No regrets in starting my mental health treatment.

For more information or if you want to see other examples on how you can create your own A to Z Gratitude category list, click on the link below:

Liz at My Wellbeing and Learning Journey is doing a challenge to identify something to feel grateful for starting with each letter of the alphabet (X and Z just have to contain, not necessarily start with, those letters). I thought I would join in. A-romatherapy: very pleasant and relaxing B-edtime: my favourite time of the day […]

via Gratitude from A to Z — Mental Health @ Home

Iron Fist’s Danny Rand and Lei Kung: Masters of Pain


Since, I have had this post on draft mode, I found out that the “Iron Fist” was canceled! Okay in my opinion…”Iron Fist”, isn’t THAT bad. I mean yeah, the story isn’t as strong as  “Daredevil”, “Jessica Jones,” “Luke Cage,” and now “The Punisher”, but it isn’t THAT bad. I’ve seen worse. The “Iron Fist” is about a guy named Danny Rand (played by Finn Jones) who inherits the powers of  the dragon, Shou-Lao, which helps him become the new “Iron Fist”,  from the legendary land of K’un-Lun. He comes to New York to reclaim Rand Enterprises after being assumed dead for 15 years after a plain crash that killed both of his parents.

Danny’s father, Wendell Rand
Danny’s mother, Heather Rand

When Danny returns, he tries to reconnect with his former life, mostly with his former relationships like his former friends,  Joy and Ward, the Meachum siblings (played by Jessica Stroup and Tom Pelphrey) who also own part Rand Enterprises, who found it a little hard to believe that he returned from the dead. Speaking of returning from the dead, we find Harold Meachum, who was Danny’s father’s former partner, before he passed away from cancer and then being revived by the Hand. Now that Danny is trying to catch up with the times and his former life, he has been easily influenced by the Hand via Harold Meachum.

He looks very familiar…
If you said “Boromir”, then you would be correct! He played Boromir in LOTR: The Two Towers and Return of the King, played by David Wenham who played Harold Mechum as shown in the picture above
No…he’s not Denis Leary, though he kinda DOES look like him.

Since the loss of his parents and the acquirement of his new found powers…and the inheritance of his parents’ company, it seems that everyone has been trying to take the place of his “mentor”: The Hand (e.g. Madame Gao, Bakuto), Harold Meachum, and  Lei Kung…trying to mold him into their own making to fit their own intentions. Yes, I said Lei Kung. Sure he’s not the bad guy, but I have to say even he was trying hard to win him over.

Lei Kung, The Thunderer Champion of K’un-Lun

Many times in the show Danny, including during his flashbacks, especially after he was rescued by the devastating plane crash, he hasn’t been able to deal with his grief and has periodically what appears to be panic attacks especially whenever an airplane flies overhead.

Danny when his mother told him she loved him, before the fatal crash

When he lived in K’un-lun, while Danny Rand was able to acquire the role of the “Iron Fist”, he never got a chance to grieve the loss of his parents, nor be able to process the trauma where he nearly lost his own life. His teacher, Lei Kung, put him under tremendous and intense training. This is not including dealing with harsh conditions of K’un-Lun like sleeping on a dirty mat and traveling a mile uphill to get daily rations of water each morning (Marvel Cinematic Universe Wiki, n.d.). However, I feel despite all the training Lei Kung put him under, the one thing that he didn’t teach Danny is how to overcome his pain.

Mental Health Support

In season 1 of “The Iron Fist” (including “The Defenders” and “Luke Cage”), Lei-Kung is often mentioned and been seen in a few scenes. He is the elder monk of the Order of the Crane Mother and the father of Danny’s best friend, Davos. It was believed that Danny was part of a prophecy, because of how his parent’s plane was on fire while it crashed in the sky. And I believe because of that, he has seen him a prize and as the potential protector of Kun-Lun, “The Iron Fist”. So him seeing still grieving over his parents seemed to be trivial:

I hear you crying at night in your room. Weeping over your parents and their loss. That grief is a weakness. Banish it. Reject or accept the darkness. It is your choice. Both are acceptable. But your choice reveal who we are.


Okay…this isn’t fair that Lei Kung is calling him “weak” just because he lost his parents. Well, yeah…it was a period of darkness for him. And this darkness wasn’t particularity a bad one. Why does remind me a movie….


Ah, yes! Star Wars: The Phantom Menace. Remember the part when the Jedi Counsel (mostly Mace Windu, Ki-Adi-Mundi, and Yoda talking to him) told a young Anakin Skywalker (who presence was also prophesied) to be mindful of his feelings of missing his mother will get the best of of him because well…as Yoda put it:

Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate.

But I feel that ironically… it was their “detached mentality” that kinda set Anakin to the Dark Side. Go figure.

Not all darkness is bad. There’s the darkness that is for evil and there’s the darkness that describes a person’s period of loss and grief, whatever they may be, whether it includes loss of health, the loss of a loved one, lost of a job, breakup…But in no way does having such feelings mean a person is “weak”.

Mental Health Affects ANYBODY

We find that even when Danny gains the power of “The Iron Fist”, the emptiness and grief still remains. Even with all the power and money in the world (the inheritance of Rand Enterprises) he is still sad. This goes to show that money and power is not everything if there is no love or even a time to grieve. I mean, a lot of people in the show (especially since they thought that Danny was dead) thought he looked like anyone else. This is why looking after our mental well-being. Mental health affects us no matter who you are.

Warts And All: Accepting Ourselves

At the entry to every door is the opportunity to choose a different path. If you wish to continue as you are, do not enter. But if you choose to face the dragon inside, know that you risk everything. Should you live…your former self will be destroyed. If you choose to take this up you will be forever marked as one of us. Are you willing to kills Danny Rand so that Iron Fist might live?

Lei Kung

Can’t Danny accept himself and his role as “The Iron Fist”?  If Danny wasn’t who he was, Kung would have chose his own son Davos wouldn’t he? (Then again in the second season we find out why, but that’s a post for another day) It’s just like in the real world when people want others to forsake themselves for their own purposes, forgetting that it was that person’s individuality that made them sought after in the first place.

I’m glad that Danny chose to accept himself and being the Iron Fist instead choosing between the two of them. Sometimes, people makes us feel we have give up a part of who we are if we are to succeed or acquire anything in life.  Or that you can’t get anything, because of who you are. This could include core values or like in  Danny’s case, an emotion that we are currently going through. Regardless which it is, we must face our “inner dragons” if we are are to manifest our own “hidden power”. If we don’t face whatever is causing anxiety within us, it can destroy us or our relationships, jobs, or our livelyhood.

Taking Precaution of Our Words: The Sensitive Thing About Insensitivity

Cast away your childish needs. Bury your mother. Bury your father. You belong to me and to me alone. You must submit, can you do it? Then tell me who you are! A child…touched by fire…delivered from heaven to become the greatest warrior, destined for victory. Guardian of the Gate…Destroyer of the Hand. Your purpose. Destroy the Hand. No room for doubt. Finish it. Finish it now. You belong to me… and I command you.

Lei Kung

It sucks to have high expectations put on you doesn’t it? The high expectation and the grand titles given by Lei Kung blinded him from the sorrow Danny was facing. Bury his parents? The show never mentioned if he was able to do that, but I’m sure it was even challenging to “bury” his parents mentally in his mind. “Tell me who you are?” He’s a child who lost his parents in a fiery plane crash. An orphan!  If this is Kung’s way of “looking on the bright side” that is very horrible. Danny will move on in his life, but by making him deny his pains, it would only make them multiply. This is no way to help someone’s overcome heartache, grief, or troubles. Denying someone else’s pain, just because it is inconvenient for you or because you don’t understand it, isn’t how to help someone. You’re better off saying, “I’m sorry”, “I don’t know”, or “I don’t know, I’m sorry” or say nothing. So let’s try our best not to talk for the sake of talking.

The ability to speak does not make you intelligent

Qui-Gon Jinn

Turning Lemons Into Lemonade: Using Your Struggles To Help Others

I’m still trying to figure out who I’m gonna be as the Iron Fist. Lei Kung taught me that I was a powerful weapon, a flame meant to destroy our enemies. But I keep thinking that maybe I can be something else. A light for those trapped in the darkness.

Danny Rand

In the end, I like how he uses his newfound powers to enlighten the lives of others. Much like those of us who live with mental illness, whatever our “newfound powers” maybe—whether it maybe your resilience, resourcefulness, compassion, patience, wisdom, courage, self-love or self-compassion—you are also lighting a way for those in the darkness of heir mental health journey too.


As you become the hero you choose to be during your own mental health journey, there will be people in yourself, even those you love (and love you) with good intentions who may want to have a say in it. Including those who also live with mental illness. I myself, have been guilty at doing this.  They will tell you how should heal, how long it’ll last, but in reality healing isn’t a one size fits all and it most definitely won’t happen even a few months, but you will improve. I think at the end, Lei Kung had good intentions, for choosing Danny as the new “Iron Fist”. However, I think it was a mistake for Lei Kung to think, he would have been like every “Iron Fist” before him. Maybe what motivated the last “Iron Fist”, may not have benefited this “Iron Fist”. Like Danny,  don’t be mad at those you love who couldn’t help you through your pain, because they may not know how to help you overcome it. People can only know so much. At the end of day in the heart of your heart, you know what’s best for you, because at the end of it all you will be the one benefiting from your healing.


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