Month: March 2019

Kakashi: The Hero We Need In Real Life

Kakashi: The Hero We Need In Real Life

Naruto trying to chide Sasuke into sticking around to see their sensei’s true face

 

I love the Naruto series, especially the original series (there’s like 3). If you haven’t heard of the series, it’s about an orphan by the name of Naruto Uzimaki who find he carries the demon, the nine tailed fox, within him. With the help of his sensei, Kakashi Hataki and in time  Jiraiya, (aka: Pervy sages), help Naurto manage and control the spirit. But… that one is story for another day. We’re just focusing Naruto’s first sensei, Kakashi. Anyway, Naruto along with his peers Sasuke Uchiha and Sakura Haruno learn through Kakashi Sensei how to be ninjas. They were Team Kakashi/Team 7.

The original Naruto was great, funny and inspiring show, but there was one episode that caught my attention “Gotta See! Gotta Know!Kakashi Sensei’s True Face!” (Naruto episode 111). This episode is a “filler episode” meaning it is for the anime only and usually because it’s to give the author more time to finish their comic book, so in turn it can be included in the anime. This episode (as titled) was about finding out what what Kakashi looked like without all his coverings.

Naurto and Sasuke’s imaging of how their sensei looks like without his masked mouth piece

Sauske, as seen below, was allured by this too, and he along with Naurto and Sakura go on their adventure to solve this mystery:

Sasuke convinced into seeing their sensei’s true face.

 

Another imagining of their Sensei concocted by Naruto and Sasuke

Unfortunately the trio get thwarted along the way:

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From left to right-Shikamaru, Ino, and Choji (from Team Asuma) blocks their viewing of their Sensei

Kakashi eventually gives them  a low-rank mission to look after a farm that leads up to a group of ninjas called the Moya Triad that were following them and wanted to get revenge on Kakashi for humiliating them and leaving them tied up three years before. Unfortunately while it, the leader of the triad was trying to gain affection of a young girl, that didn’t want his affection.

Haha! Oh the theatrics
Aniki the leader and eldest brother of the Moya Triad

Kakashi stepped in to step to protect the lady from the leader’s advances and this angered the leader further.

Within a blink of an eye, Kakashi saves (and looks like gets the girl) and ties up the brothers…again.

Haha! Sometimes I wish there were ninja in real life that would be used to protect people from being sexually harassed, since the judicial system is faulty. And as you see above Kakashi didn’t step in because he was trying to get the girl to like him, but because it was the right thing to do.  I’ve heard of men only doing things to help women in hopes in getting with a women and only getting because the girl didn’t go out with them. I mean really??? Just do it because it’s the right thing to do. If the girl doesn’t go out with him fine. If she does, fine. What matters is just helping a person in need.

Also Kakashi doesn’t need to feel to prove his “masculinity”. He’s too cool for that. He has better things to do. Some guys will need to have to prove, but Kakashi… I wish some men in real life knew they don’t need to prove they’re a man by participating in something that’s just inherently wrong  and disrespectful. Kakashi saw what was going on between the brothers and girl and didn’t just sit there and/or engage in the nonsense. He knew something was wrong and stepped up.

This what we need in real life: being able to be there for people who are in trouble. If we did this, the world could probably be a better place…and it would just be just seen in the world of cartoons and anime.

Hello, Goodbye, Hello, Goodbye

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I’m tired of changing therapists…Whether it is because a psychiatric or therapeutic student completed their residency or because they’re going on maternity leave, I can’t stand change. See, after months of adapting to my regular therapist, she left for maternity leave. Not that I’m not happy for her, I just dread starting ALL over again knowing a new therapist. Like it’s not bad enough I have generalized anxiety disorder. So here I was COMPLETELY get nervous about who and what the temporary therapist is like. Then after a few visits I get use to the temp therapist. Then one day… POOF! I hear the temp therapist left from the receptionist and my regular therapist returned from maternity leave and I will be meeting with her again the following week. Ugh!

Is it wrong to feel I liked my temp therapist more than my regular therapist? I felt like she gave me little things that I felt really helped me and she suggested an additional medication in addition to my current anti-depressant medication to help me better help me with my depression. Ugh! I feel so bad for dreading my old therapist! Adjusting is hard because my anxious self doesn’t like change. It prefers consistency and familiarity… especially when it’s helpful. She left just when she was going to work up a case plan for me. So now, I’m wondering what my therapy sessions are going to be like my former therapist. Oh boy… Anyways, I’m glad I saw her last week when I did. 🙂

R. Kelly, Part 6: Victim Shaming

Dr Luke’s Lawyer: “But again, there are people that are falsely accused of rape, aren’t there? You think there has never been a false accusation of rape?”

Lady Gaga: How about all of the women that are accused of being liars and how she was slut shamed in front of the world, how about that?

Lady Gaga fighting for Kesha against her former music producer Dr. LukeFrom the online article: How Can Sexual Abuse Survivors get Justice When the System fails them?

 

I don’t really get the whole thing about victim shaming. No…it’s not that I don’t know what it is, but rather..why does society blame the victim? Why does society seem to crucify the people who need the most help? The victims who presented themselves on the Lifetime show, “Surviving R. Kelly” and even on the Dateline Special, “R.Kelly: Accused” are viewed pretty much as TV whores….women who are vying for their 15 minutes of fame and to gain money. However, after even listening to clips of their stories, I believed them, especially when they talked how it affected their lives, because I know how my incident affected mine.

So in a definition context, what is victim shaming? According to Wikipedia (I just loved how they perfectly defined it), “Victim Shaming or victim blaming “occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially at fault for the harm that befalls them.” Why is that? It’s because compared to a robbery, the victim is more to their assaulter.

Title IX Political Cartoon Analysis

Here are some other reasons why people disbelieve survivors (Whiting, 2019):

  1. The Myth of the Evil Perpetrator
  2. Wishing the World Was Safe
  3. The Wrong Kind of Victim
  4. Confusion and Self-Blame

The Myth of the Evil Perpetrator

This is guy that everyone understates. Why? One could be his socioeconomic status…meaning he’s rich….he’s successful. He has an outstanding reputation…the guy that everyone loves…the guy everyone knows and trusts. He’s the “nice guy” and this “nice guy” is either good looking or they are someone you’d even trust your children with.They’d never do such heinous things.

Example:

Larry Nassar, the now disgraced USA Gymnastics national team doctor and osteopathic physician for Michigan State University, was someone who well-known for being generous, selfless, and committed. He was known for his goofy charm and steadfast service, that when the young girls tried to report his actions , their cries were often ignored. And it didn’t help either since he was known for “women’s pelvic issues” which was helpful for common injuries that were faced in gymnastics, he would rebuke the girl’s cries of his sexual advances by saying they misunderstood his “technique”.

Wishing the World Was Safe

I guess for some people ignorance really is bliss for some people while still having this “I could have seen it a mile a way” attitude. Well, of course they could. If after I’ve heard someone story without having being in the situation myself,  of course, I would have seen it coming. Researchers call this the “hindsight effect.” In one study, research participants read different versions of a story. One group of participant read a version where a character was raped at the end, while the other group head the netural ending. The first group displayed a bias toward their character after picking up on clues from the story hence leading towards the “I knew it all along” bias where the listening audience  may make the situation being told them “predictable” or “easy” when really…. it wasn’t.

Example:

In Mississippi, a woman was raped on a Biloxi Bay Bridge when she went out running. Even though she reported the assault and was treated and tested local hospital, people still had something to say about the incident: “I would not run alone that late at night, especially being a woman. Go during daylight or with a running buddy” and “It’s dark at  6 p.m. what was was she even doing alone walking on the bridge?”

The Wrong Kind of Victim

Or what is called, “ideal victim” is where the victim must fit these five characteristics:

  1. Weak/vulnerable
  2. Involved in a respectable activity at the time of victimization
  3. Blameless in all aspects of the interaction
  4. Victimized by an obvious offender
  5.  Someone who does not know the offender

Example: If a person fights back, is not dressing in the right way, is intoxicated or if the accused is someone they know, their story is more likely to be questioned or doubted

4. Confusion and Self-Blame

Here the victim may either accept that the blame their perpetrator is placing on them or feel a deep shame for allowing the abuse to keep happening or for being at the wrong place or for not getting away.

Examples:

One of Larry Nassar’s early victims, Larissa Boyce, while trusting in her coach who found her claim upsetting, then was told by her coach, that if she reported about the incident it would have “very serious consequences” for both Nassar and herself. Terrified at this possibility, Larissa end up eventually crying and apologizing to Nassar, saying it was a “misunderstanding and all her fault”.

So, how can people  know what sexual assault is? Educate themselves. It’s as School House Rocky says, because:

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Sorry had to put a lighthearted gif, to such a tough topic. And I don’t know about you, but Schoolhouse Rock always put a smile on my face 😀

Alright, so what sites could help people better under sexual assault? Take a look at the sites below:

No More

NSVRC

Planned Parenthood

RAINN

Reach Out (Australia)

The Survivors Trust (UK)

Victims Connect

Victims of Crime

Victims Support (UK)

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If you live outside of the U.S. and know of any anti-sexual assault organiation in your nation, if you can message me, so I can put in this post. Thank you!

References

“How Denial and Victim Blaming Keep Sexual Assault Hidden”. (2019). Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-lies-and-conflict/201901/how-denial-and-victim-blaming-keep-sexual-assault-hidden

Victim Blaming. (n.d.) Retrieved from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_blaming

More Readings

Amber Heard: I Spoke Up Against Sexual Violence and Faced Our Culture’s Wrath

Ex-Baylor Frat President Indicted On 4 Counts of Sexual Assault Won’t Go To Prison

The Veil of Silence is Lifted for Black Women Thanks to R. Kelly Docuseries

The Hearing That Forced The World To Listen To Larry Nassar’s Survivors

Why Do Sexual Assault Victims Wait So Long To Speak Out? Take A Look At The Comments Section

Spring Fever

Yeah, it’s like the title says. Because if the crazy rain in So Cal, trees and flowers, especially in the neighborhood I live at, there was pollination EVERYWHERE. So I had mad allergies and worse…migraines. I had stop writing part 6 of my R.Kelly piece (and I was kinda getting traumatized as I was writing ALL the pieces). So to those who sent me messages, I apologize for not responding sooner for those who have sent me messages or who have been sending posts. I will respond quickly and read posts again!😄